There is only one you. No-one on the planet has the same genetic make-up as you. No-one has your exact personality or experiences. No-one sees the world as you do. You are a unique creation and there is a unique purpose for your life.
In a previous blog I outlined the five reasons why it’s important for you as a single parent to invest in you and pursue your passions.
But it raised the question ‘I am busy being a single parent. How can I find my passion, and still have time to cook tea?’ The answer is by doing 3 simple things:
- Consider questions
- Try something
- Take a test
What am I here for?
Finding your purpose goes back to the question of the meaning of life – what am I here for?
Rick Warren could be considered an authority on the answer to this question. He has written a bestselling book, ‘The purpose driven life’ that has sold over 32 million copies and was recently in the news with Michael Phelps’ success in the pool at the Rio Olympics.
Warren’s book explores how your purpose is shaped by your natural abilities and talents, your passions and what you like, who you are and your life experience. Read more about the Purpose Driven Life and for a Biblical perspective click here
To help with reflecting as you answer the questions you can:
- Discuss them with a friend and get their perspective about what they see in you
- Write about them in your journal
- Just think about them
- What do you enjoy doing now (sport, hobby, craft, etc)?
- What did you enjoy doing when you were younger?
- What makes your soul sing?
- What are you good at?
- What have you always dreamed of doing?
- Who needs you?
- What do you still need to do?
- What legacy do you want to leave?
- What makes you stand on your soap box?
In the resource section is a collection of blog posts that have questions to help you ponder ‘what am I here for?’
Often when you try things you find out if it is something you like to do, are passionate about and have the skills for. I learnt as a 15 year old teaching Sunday school to little kids that being a teacher to primary age children was definitely not for me!
Take a test
There are tests on the internet you can take to learn more about yourself such as the VIA character strengths test. There are Christian books with questions and guides. There are workshops to identify how you are shaped for purpose.
Finding your purpose is not an instant thing. As a busy single parent make sure you allow some blocks of time to invest in you, to self-care, and you can give some this time to exploring your purpose. Gradually build a picture of who you are and what you are here for.
Putting legs on it
Answer the questions, try something or take a test to learn about your purpose.
Samples of blog posts on the topic:
Christian books with guides to work out your purpose:
- Warren, R (2002) The Purpose Driven Life, Zondervan, U.S.A
- Brazelton, K (2005) Praying for Purpose for Women , Zondervan, USA
- Max Lucado, M (2005) Cure for the Common Life, W Publishing Group, USA
VIA Institute of character: Strengths (take the test here) http://www.viacharacter.org/www/Character-Strengths/Science-Of-Character
Warren, R (2002) The Purpose Driven Life, Zondervan, U.S.A
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